Soulmates

In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for a
playmate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a
hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun to
be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this
has to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a soul
mate out of a Playmate.

The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meet
our Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a
Lifemate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional,
children, etc.).

Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in
no shape ourselves to be anyone's anything. How can we distinguish
between the One, and just another one? First, we must be open with
ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you
and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.

Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find
your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to
listen to that inner voice. Moreover, is that voice telling you that the
nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be
him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile
for you when no one else will. Oh no! He's too short or too tall,
balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me!

GUYS............

Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around
her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.
She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not
shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't
be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn't look like Shemar Moore
or Halle Berry.

Don't push away someone who is right there in your face, someone who you
think you are not good for, but you never asked them. Is the next person
going to treat you like the jewel that you are?

Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never
imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the
back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner
desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you enjoy
playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out there
to occupy your time.

Nevertheless, don't spend too much time playing or you may play your
life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins
to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave
your Soul mate.

Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an
option......

Poem - The Other Woman

This poem is waaaay deep!

THE OTHER WOMAN
I am the one who consoles your man
I listen when you don't have time

I am his friend first and
His lover second
A lover who loves him unconditionally
I don't make him feel like he's less of a man
I know this good black man is doing
The best he can
In an unforgiving world
He laughs with me
Smiles with me
Shares with me
He runs my bath water
And licks the bubbles off my toes
He washes my body with gentle hands
Gentle hands from a gentleman
I make him feel wanted, needed and appreciated
He shows me a side of him
You never knew existed
Did you know he wanted to go to cooking school?

Who am I?
I AM THE OTHER WOMAN
You were always too busy for him
With your career
Too busy to get the brother a beer
Too busy for love
He was never next
Too busy for anal or kinky sex
Don't get it twisted
This isn't something that will pass
It's a lot deeper
We read books together
Cry together
Love forever

Who am I
I AM THE OTHER WOMAN
When his pager goes off
And he has to leave unexpectedly
Well, that's me
When he comes home late and happy
From an all nighter at the office
It's me that put that smile on his face
I make dealing with you more tolerable
I've only spoken to you once or twice
You sound very nice, not cold as ice
Like he said, or maybe he meant
Cold as ice......in bed
Idle hands are the devil's workshop
Idle hands of your man
All over my tan.....brown body
A good man is not hard to find
A good man is hard to keep
Especially if you're a weak.......woman
He likes me because I talk back to him
I show him sass and spunk
I give him my lips to kiss and my body to lick
I am the challenge you never were
I bring him breakfast in bed
Followed by a little head
And drink Mimosa's out of his naval
Hey girl, I understand
Everybody aint able
Quit trying to be the boss
And give that salad a toss
I ask him how was his day
And massage his head and his feet
Letting him know
He is my only treat
No disrespect intended
But then again
I don't owe you a thing
I didn't commit to you
He did!

We as women get mad at one another
Instead of dealing with the man
The man with idle hands
Who am I
I AM THE OTHER WOMAN !
I AM THE WOMAN
In response to the other woman,
Allow me to introduce myself
I am the WOMAN who was there each step He took.
I am his backbone that keeps him strong.
I am his best Friend and Soul mate,
while you settled for being just his here and now date.
You state that you love him unconditionally,
well you don't know unconditional love until you lay
awake praying, holding and molding your mate.
I don't make him feel less than a man because I am
more than a woman to belittle my man.
And just because you give him tail and he tells
you sweet nothing to make your head swell,
doesn't mean he's your male.
You say he laughs with you, nah he laughs at you
because you will always be coach
because I am first class.
You say he smiles with you , well he cries with me
because we are connected emotionally.
So.... he licks your toes huh?
Well... toes and ho's go together.
But my dear he licks my cat, so how
You like that.
He massages my inner walls, and your surprised
he didn't call?
He is in tuned to me because I am his destiny.
Which you can never be.
Sweetie, you think you know things I don't,
his inner most thoughts, wants, and dreams.
Do you realize we built those things from
bottom to top together.
You should have known better.
Who am I? You know who I am. Damn.
I am that woman you strive to be.
Nothing and no one compares to me.
I AM THE WOMAN
The Woman you can't be.
The woman working hard to build stability.
Yes, I am a career woman.
And yes, I am on top of my business, but
guess what he is my business, and now this is
Personal.
You know I don't blame you for hating me
And if that makes you feel better about
yourself then let it be.
Because I am secure in how I present myself.
Don't YOU get it TWISTED sister, I do just
fine
in the satisfaction department, you didn't know?
What you did last night, he learned from me.
I have a bachelors in seduction, a masters
in rhythmatic abilities,
and PHd in climax stimulation.
Like I said before I am first class, the ultimate.
My ways are intoxicating, leaving a man
puzzled and perplexed
on how he can get his next fix.
Who am I? You know who I am.
I AM THE WOMAN, you can't be.
STOP....... you don't even compare to me.
He told you I am cold as ice, no sweetie,
you misinterpreted what he meant.
He meant I leave him with chills running up
and down his spine because I am so fine.
Kinky- I can be, but unlike you I am a
LADY
What I do in my bed stays in my bed,
while what you do in bed hops from bed to
bed to street corner.
You are right, a good man is not hard to
find, but hard to keep.
and weak.... hardly describes me freak.
He likes you because you walk behind him
I walk beside him.
You bring him breakfast in bed,
My mornings after has him scrambling eggs
butt naked with slippers on.
And when I ask him what will you eat- he
responds... "YOU are my treat."
No disrespect taken honey and actually I
find it quite funny.
I am more than a WOMAN.
He's the ONE who committed to me.
That's why I will let the two of you be.
Who am I? You know who I am.
I am that LADY who discharged his ass yesterday.
Now, what you got to say.
Ya see, I knew who you were on the phone,
that's why I decided to leave him alone.
My man and I had a little conference and
sadly to say
that I AM TIRED, so my jigga, your ass is
FIRED.
Who am I ?
I am that WOMAN who got AWAY!
It is best to be thought a fool than to
open your mouth and prove it. Silence can be so loud. !!!!!!!!

doomed for divorce?

Today I got home early and I turned on Tyra because the subject actually seemed interesting. It was asking couples are you doomed for divorce. They had a panel of 3 people, a psychologist, money advisor and a priest. A great panel and the priest was off the chain. Can someone please tell me if they still use that saying, off the chain, or is it something new. But, anywho, it was actually a good show and I really don't care for Tyra. I think she is fake. But anyways.

The first couple, the guy was trying to be a good man and get along with his girlfriend's mother. Mom's didn't care for him too much. And the girl had an attitude that her mom has been there for her always, so she was going to listen to her mom. I have a few words for this guy. Run Forrest Run. I have been in that situation and if she is going to listen to her mom over him. She is telling him, my mom is more important than you. And the crazy thing about that was, the three people on the panel said the same thing. That's not a a good thing cause when you get married you are supposed to leave mom and dad behind and live your life. And if you have struggles, you have to cling to one another and make it work. If they are always running to mommy and daddy, then you will never have a say so in the house. Not a good thing.

The other couple, the woman didn't want her man in her money matters. She felt that it was her money and what she did with her money is her business and none on his. But, the crazy part is, he was helping her pay her bills. He is paying the bills and she didn't want to show him her bills and she stated that her money is her money. Guess what. Run Forrest Run. Again, if she thinks and feels that she can spend her money any way she wants to, and he is going to bail her out. We know this ain't going to work. Another not a good thing. The biggest argument in any relationship is money, and it will be the biggest if you don't work it out together. People who don't fuss about money alot are those who work towards the same goal and they work on their budget together.

Let me know how you feel. Are they doomed for divorce.

Woman, 75, Takes Hammer Down To Cable Office

If you ever had issues with your cable company take advice from this woman LOL...

MANASSAS, Va. -- Mona Shaw, 75, was so fed up with her cable provider in Virginia that she decided to take some serious action (Video: MyFoxDC).

So she took a hammer down to the Comcast payment center.

Shaw figured her age would keep her from getting in too much trouble.

"At 75 ... I figure they're not going to hang me," she told Washington, D.C., FOX affiliate WTTG.

Go here to view the story....
http://www.myfoxdc.com/myfox/pages/Home/Detail;jsessionid=91DD64726E22333DA47A5D359353AF6D?contentId=4590482&version=1&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=VSTY&pageId=1.1.1&sflg=1

Homewrecker still causin' chaos

I just had to post this one...

A friend of mine and I was talking about his baby momma's drama and all that jazz. Well finally his baby's mom - out of the clear blue - told him that she wanted to talk to me about my nickname, and wanted my phone number. When my friend asked her why, she replied that she 'wanted to get to the bottom of her Homewrecker nickname'. As expected, he fell out laughing. She didn't find this amusing.. she actually went on (according to him)a 15 minute rampage about why I was being called Homewrecker. The more she raged, the harder he laughed at her.

Finally, after getting a cramp in his side from all of the laughter, and the headache that he was receiving from her nagging, he camly said 'she is retired, and has been for a while. She haven't wrecked a home since 2005. Pay attention to what you shouldn't be reading.' (He found out that she has logged into his email and read my signature: Homewrecker (Retired))

What happened to.....

As I sit here in front of my computer, I wonder why so-called men is not interested in pursuing a relationship nowadays. I guess that they are looking for sow their royal oates, putting another notch in their belt, whatever it is called these days. What happened to chilvary? What happened to getting to know the person intimately, not in a sexual manner?

Well I come from the old school, where it was common place for a man to court you, get to know you, take a woman out on a date. etc. Now it is 'let me get your number so that I can blow that back out later'. No romance, no swooning, nothing. And women is falling for it every time.

Let me tell you that I know what I want, and I am not settling for anything under that. If you think you can change my mind, go for what you know.

Happy 4th of July

Just wanted to say ....

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY TO EVERYONE!