Sunday Night Musings

*blows dust off blog*

This has been calling me for some time.  
I have neglected the call.

My mind pushes me to go farther, dig deeper, put it all the way down.
Sometimes I just cannot do it.
I fear the backlash.
I fear what may happen if I unleash what I have been through.

This is just the beginning.

Here we are, 2.5 months into 2017.  I have been on a roller coaster ride that more hills and valleys than most.  I have to admit that I am struggling this semester more than last semester.  I need to stay focused to attain the goal that I have for myself.  I can't stop now.  I have to push forward.  

The question since January 20th is: What in the entire hell just happened in America?!?!  I mean, President Flaming Cheeto 45 is on a mission to make America white again.  Everyone that he has appointed on his cabinet either wants to do away with the department that they hold, or they have NO DAMN IDEA what they're doing.  

Jesse Williams Speech from the BET Awards

Here is the speech that has the world talking, and Justin Timberlake regretting that he opened his mouth on Twitter.

Peace peace. Thank you, Debra. Thank you, BET. Thank you Nate Parker, Harry and Debbie Allen for participating in that .

Before we get into it, I just want to say I brought my parents out tonight. I just want to thank them for being here, for teaching me to focus on comprehension over career, and that they make sure I learn what the schools were afraid to teach us. And also thank my amazing wife for changing my life.

Now, this award – this is not for me. This is for the real organizers all over the country – the activists, the civil rights attorneys, the struggling parents, the families, the teachers, the students that are realizing that a system built to divide and impoverish and destroy us cannot stand if we do.

It’s kind of basic mathematics – the more we learn about who we are and how we got here, the more we will mobilize.

Now, this is also in particular for the black women in particular who have spent their lifetimes dedicated to nurturing everyone before themselves. We can and will do better for you.

Now, what we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to deescalate, disarm and not kill white people everyday. So what’s going to happen is we are going to have equal rights and justice in our own country or we will restructure their function and ours.

Now… I got more y’all – yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday so I don’t want to hear anymore about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on 12 year old playing alone in the park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then going home to make a sandwich. Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better than it is to live in 2012 than it is to live in 1612 or 1712. Tell that toEric Garner. Tell that to Sandra Bland. Tell that to Dorian Hunt.

Now the thing is, though, all of us in here getting money – that alone isn’t gonna stop this. Alright, now dedicating our lives, dedicating our lives to getting money just to give it right back for someone’s brand on our body when we spent centuries praying with brands on our bodies, and now we pray to get paid for brands on our bodies.

There has been no war that we have not fought and died on the front lines of. There has been no job we haven’t done. There is no tax they haven’t leveed against us – and we’ve paid all of them. But freedom is somehow always conditional here. “You’re free,” they keep telling us. But she would have been alive if she hadn’t acted so… free.

Now, freedom is always coming in the hereafter, but you know what, though, the hereafter is a hustle. We want it now.

And let’s get a couple things straight, just a little sidenote – the burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander.That’s not our job, alright – stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance, for our resistance, then you better have an established record of critique of our oppression. If you have no interest, if you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down.

We’ve been floating this country on credit for centuries, yo, and we’re done watching and waiting while this invention called whiteness uses and abuses us, burying black people out of sight and out of mind while extracting our culture, our dollars, our entertainment like oil – black gold, ghettoizing and demeaning our creations then stealing them, gentrifying our genius and then trying us on like costumes before discarding our bodies like rinds of strange fruit. The thing is though… the thing is that just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.

Thank you.

News from the street....

Below is my 1 cent op-ed for the week.....

The Freddie Gray case....
Why is it I am not surprised that NO ONE.... and I mean NO..DAMN..BODY.. has been convicted in the Freddy Gray murder case.  Did Mosby not have a solid case against anyone?!?!  You have 6 police officers that knew of the injuries to this man and three of them got off.  The judge is now saying that with the "malicious prosecution" from Mosby, that ll of them will get off.  Say word?!

The Gray family needs justice.  The city of Baltimore needs justice and peace.  Mosby really need to find another strategy if she is going to get any conviction for Freddie Gray.

Meanwhile, in the Legion of Doom.... I mean the US Capitol....
I need for Rep. Charles Rangel to step all... the...way...down.  This common sense reject actually said that law abiding citizens should not have to buy a gun.  Really fool?!?!  There are people of the FBI Watch list that can get an AR-15 military style assault weapon and shoot up a nightclub.  How hard is it for some common sense legislation that actually says the following:

• If you are on the FBI watch list, no gun for you period.  However, this requires an overhaul of this list.  Got a fix for that too.  Find 20 angry women and I will guarantee you that it will be cleaned up in no time.  When provoked, we are better in finding out information better than all of the best agents out at Quantico combined.
• This background check should be way better than the one that you use to get a secret clearance with the federal government.
• You want a handgun, take a class from the NRA or a licensed trainer.  Sorry DC residents, the MPD will not fund a trainer for the public.  If this has changed, please let me know.

The Upcoming Presidential election....

I am voting for the US to be single this year. We need to find ourselves as a nation after us breaking up with President Obama.

No woodland creatures or short bus rejects were harmed in the writing of this blog.  

bitch I'm back... Not by poplar demand....

Well I have decided after wrestling with my inner demons and appeasing them with cheesecake and ice cream, that I will bring my controversial blog back from the land where they film The Walking Dead.

My original blog, The Homewrecker, was an outlet for me to dispel my frustrations with my ex-husband, my divorce, and my ups and down with love and relationship.

So let's start from the beginning.....

• I was born and raised in DC
• My old stomping grounds is Capital Hill/Barracks Row
• I am a mother, sister, aunt, godmother, and great auntie
• I am a Hobby-entrepreneur trying to make the leap of faith.
• I try to spread knowledge

Now, on to the fuckery......

Thank you,

Management

ratchet ghetto bitch ass 'nigga' right here

*cues up Another One Bites the Dust*
 ... and another one wants to feel my wrath... 
Now here is a ratchet ghetto bitch ass 'nigga' right here... Ladies and Gentlemen, meet Lamont Brooks.

This 'I am Tarzan, you Jane' Mitt Romney's new running mate short bus reject here decided to come and make an apperace on my page after I posted about how guys send me unwanted random pics of their dicks. First you accuse me of being gay... strike one ninja.

 Can somebody tell me how did the statement that I posted makes me gay?!?!

To all the fellas on my page, 

 I'm sorry fellas.... 
 Sending me random, unwanted pictures of your dick is NOT A TURN ON!! It is a TURN OFF!!! 

 Thank you, 
Management 

 Point it out to me please? I'll wait.... Still waiting.....

 Then when I say that I am bi, and that men should show restraint, he told me to turn gay because NO MAN is going to meet my demands.

 His actual response:
Then you want a fag. NO REAL MAN GOES BY WHAT YOU WANT......lol. If that's what you want you need a bitch as nigga. YOU HAVE LIFE FUCKED UP

 That's strike 2 nigga!!! Now I'm thinking, did this Diary Of a Wimpy Kid movie reject get in his damn feelings because I'm a fucking grown ass woman, I demand my respect, and random dick pics is so unappealing to me. I would rather have the tool of procreation in front of me, and if I want a pic, I will take one of it myself. Fuck it, I am a photographer, and this is my choice. 

But let's get to the last statement. WAYMENT!! I have life fucked up?!?! Well hell, he dont know me at all! First of all, this mofo LIVES OVERSEAS so I can only assume that he is in the military. If he is, please give him a soap party Full Metal Jacket style, then have a ladyboy from Bangkok love him long time. Then again, after the gay comment, he might like that shit *giggling* After that happens to your ass, then talk to me about life being fucked up, because karma is a bitch!!  Secondly, I am going to assume that you are in the closet because I will not allow NO ONE on my page to use ANY demeaning language, whether intentional or unintentional. It's bad enough as it is that you called me gay (which I don't give 2 shits about) but don't take your 'frustrations' of the female race out on my page.  The last time I checked, this ain't 1965, and my name ain't June Cleaver.

 Then he wants to rub it in (I guess) by sending me a private message, saying the EXACT SAME THING!! But before I can respond, he went out in true ghetto bitch ass nigga mode... he deleted and blocked me! Yes I said it... total bitch ass move!!! I laughed until I cried. I know my coworkers think I went nuts. That nigga should be glad that I didn't have a chance to respond. The motherfucker must have felt the flames from the 10th circle of hell and thought he could escape. Yeah he escaped alright... to the 12th circle which is my blog.

*straps up my 3" leather boots and points to the floor*

Kneel before Storm!! Respect this Dominant Queen!

... and the craziness continues.... "rachet horror stories from hell".

I just want to thank everyone for the messages and the well wishes that I received in the past few days.  It was satisfying that people actually paid attention.  In turn, along with the messages of "screw him", all of these stories are coming to light.  I actually will start calling them "rachet horror stories from hell". 

 

Ok let’s start with the ‘common stories’.  A lot of women came back to me with stories of how he constantly hits them up online via Facebook Messenger for a chance to play with them at an event.  Most women thought that he was harmless, but as time went on, his desperation for a relationship started to rear its ugly head.   But for some of you, it was lifestyle horror at its finest.  These stories includes:

 

-          Him getting mad at women at a party because they are not attracted to him and refuses to play with him.

-          Becoming emotional because “no one wanted to play” with him

-          Hitting people up asking for money to help out on an event (that was cancelled) or to help out on his bills that he has at home

-          Asking people can they stay at their home for a few days

-          His wife calling women asking them who they are.

-          When asked, acts like he knows NOTHING about what is going on. 

 

I will have to admit, one person did come forward and tell me about his partying days in New York.  According to this story, he refused to give money back to a person that came to a hotel party.  When he attempted to grow a set of balls and tried to talk trash to the guy, he pulled out his NY Marshall badge and inadvertently flashed his gun.  Well,  you know what came next – the emotional heap of wuss that he is known of becoming.  No wonder his

 

As I laugh and shake my head, I can only be reminded of the craziness and drama that surrounds him.  As one of my friends put it, he acts like nothing has happened, will still posts in groups, and then will start over with another group and run that into the ground just like the last 2 that he had. 

 

 

STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN!!!

You know, I don't normally put my sex life out on front street for all the world to see. But I have to come out of the Matrix and shed light on this ... ahem... the cheap-ass, lying-ass, greedy-ass, thirsty-ass, more emotional than Sybil, jealous-ass (whooshah) so-called waste of male species named Marvin Whittle.
I'm sorry.. he goes by several names.. Marvin, Maxwell Damage, Titanium Tonguebringer... whatever he wants to call himself today. He is a mockery of the lifestyle and I will tell ANYONE to steer clear of him.
I could tell you about how he got caught in his own web of lies on Monday.  Here is his picture:

I could tell you about how he lied on my Baltimore peeps that he was harassed by them.  That story about my birthday?!?! I didn't want his married ass and he knew that there was no snowball chance in the 7th circle of hell that I would EVER date his ass.  He knew my position.. I am the only one not your option.  Besides, I need a minimum of 7" of dick, not 7cm that can STAY HARD.  To add insult to injury, I  got strep throat within 48 hours of coming back from NYC. Now I'm hearing that he made tracks to Deep Creek that weekend with an ex-girlfriend of his.


By the way, whosoever dick pic that he send me claiming that it was him, I apologize because that makes him a tad bit suspect.  Maybe that is wanted to become.


His Memorial day Party?!?!  How about this emotional piece of shit started crying...yes I really do mean crying, passing out on the floor crying buckets of tears because NO ONE wanted to play with him.  You turned me off when you told me that I had to pay HALF on a room, demanded for my BFF to pay $60 for a single male, then you didn't have enough money on your credit card to cover the rooms for the event, and I find out that one of the rooms was thrown in FOR FREE.  NINJA REALLY?!?!  


Once again, I have to apologize to Simone and Paige for the bullshit that he did to you that weekend.


His birthday party?!?!  He basically told everyone that I lived in a house, was cooking food and getting a cake for his birthday.  I said NONE of these things. I live in a 1 bedroom apartment, on the second floor AND I TOLD HIM THIS!!  He in turn invited 32 people, with 27 of them being women that he either wanted to play with, or have played with, and charged them to come to the party so he wouldn't have to shell out any money, and he collected gift cards on top of that.  To top it all off, he caught an attitude because I wanted to play with a guy that I have known WAAAYY longer than him.  


I'm glad that everyone had a good time.


All in all, I felt like I was bait for him to lure women in because he is "safe' to play with.  LIKE HELL HE IS! Every damn week, he was saying that either an ex-girlfriend of his or a female that he was cool with wanted to play with us as a couple.  I am VERY selective with whom I play with, and I need to somewhat KNOW the person before sex is discussed.  I feel used because I felt like he used my kindness for his personal gain, and my status and knowledge of the lifestyle to hook up with women that he didn't have a snowball chance in hell of getting on his own merits.   I treated you like a human being and you walked all over me.  I hope you go to the 10th circle of hell and BURN TO A FUCKING CRISP!!!!


So, on that note, I will tell that... ahem... the cheap-ass, lying-ass, greedy-ass, thirsty-ass, more emotional than Sybil, jealous-ass (whooshah) so-called waste of male species named Marvin Whittle to KISS MY ENTIRE BLACK ASS. 

Open Mic Poetry at Ras Lounge

So here I am checking out Marvin's open mic night here at this little place on Georgia avenue called Ras Lounge. Actually its bigger than what I expected on the inside. The place has a nice sized bar and lots of artifacts from jamorck... Jamaica Mon... along with African masks and drums, and a portrait of Bob Marley and Halle Selassie. 

I wish I had the funds to check out the food.  Maybe next week.  However they do have drink specials every day and boasts the longest happy hour around. 

The hostess is pretty in her all natural state. And Marvin... still Marvin, only older.  I wonder where his girl at?

I think they have the the mic up and in sync with the live band.  So far it is a small crowd here.  I'm trying to stick around to see who will get on the mic.

I will snap some pics for the collection.

Is playing the field the norm?

<p>I had high hopes for 2012 in the romance department , but it's pissing me off. All I can say is what the hell is wrong with the men in this area.&#160; Now don't get me wrong, I have ran into some nice guys that are full of potential.&#160; But with all their plusses, they have baggage.&#160; When I say baggage, I am referring to their marital and field status. Either the dude is married, have their crew of women that stays in rotation, or have this issue of commitment because some other woman fucked him over - royally. </p>
<p> I don't want.to be part of anyone rotation of chicks that he can have anytime he wants.  I don't want to be the rebound chick that 'rescues' you from your failing marriage or long term relationship only to be dumped when you either upgrade or decided that the green grass on the other side was astroturf because I was more than you could handle.

I just want someone that is interested in getting to know me and not all my Facebook friends.  One of my friends wanted to put me down as one of his "ride or die" chicks, where it is a group of them that he has sex with.  Really?  I don't want to compete for your affection, much less your dick.  I don't want to be the rebound chick for no married man that is unhappy with their wife and their home life.  If it is so damn miserable, then get a divorce.  Hell that is what I did. 
</p>
*Sighs heavily* well I guess I will be single for a little while longer, because I refuse to settle for anything less. 

Happy Birthday Fat Bastid

Well today is my ex-husband's birthday.  As most people may recall, I don't call him by his government name or his nickname from college.  I call him Fat Bastard, named after Austin Powers' nemesis.  I can give a whole book of reasons, but I am not going there today.  

Today marks a day where I actually feel 'slightly' sorry for the poor bastard.  He never lived up to any expectation that he set for himself.  He was too busy on how to circumvent the system to make himself look bigger and better than what he really was.  He wanted to go into the Air Force but couldn't get his weight down.  He wanted to become a lawyer so that "he can become a better crook". He tried to bribe me not once, but twice to be him and take the LSAT (Lawyers SAT).  When I refused, he accused me of not backing him up.  When I tried to go back to get a certification at the local college, he called me everything but a child of God.  He painted this picture of me as a red-haired harlot that slept with half of the Triangle (Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, NC).  While I may be red-haired, he seeded the Triangle and the Triad.

Some of his friends are on my Facebook page.  I think his brothers are on my 'clean' page.  They might run tell that, they may not.  At this point I don't care.  Want to know something funny? I actually chuckle at the fact that he has my nickname tattooed on his arm, although he will NEVER admit to it.

Music and Me

I love music.  That is about as simple as it gets.

Growing up, I was exposed to several genres in the small Capital Hill row house that I share with my parents, 2 sisters, 2 aunts, and a cousin.  From Motown to Stax, to Millie Jackson to Mahalia Jackson, I was subject to it all.  Each room I would walk into, a different type of music was being played at any given time.  The icing on the cake was watching Soul Train Every Friday at 5PM.  If I wasn't home, I would make up excuses to get to a TV set to watch.  

Along with the exposure, I was taught at an early age to "learn what you are listening to".  The message means that along with bobbing my head to the beat, learn what the artist is talking about.  So with each song that came on the radio, it became a scramble to figure out what the artist is singing about.  Not only would I learn the lyrics, I would even attempt to sing and play the song by ear by picking it out on the piano.  With me being hearing impaired, it is a constant struggle to get the lyric right, much less trying to perform.  But I dared myself, and I soared.  I impressed my music teachers, especially the ones that didn't know about my hearing loss.  

I may have stopped playing and singing, but my love of music has never wavered.  

Modern Day Matchmaker: 12 Signs You're Not Ready for Marriage

Modern Day Matchmaker: 12 Signs You're Not Ready for Marriage
By Paul Carrick Brunson

Engagements aren't having the best year. Last week Vivica Fox called off her engagement and it's rumored that Jennifer Hudson and David Otunga could be headed for splitsville. Basketball Wives stars Gloria Govan and Matt Barnes even ended their lengthy engagement for a second time last month.

The truth is, marriage may not work for everyone and sometimes the time just isn't right. For many, this is a difficult statement to accept, however, when we don’t acknowledge the truth and blindly enter matrimony, the effects can come back to bite all of us (in some cases a broken marriage = broken children = broken community). I’m convinced that a significant reason for the looming divorce rate (of approximately 48%) is due to one simple reason; many of us marry when we’re not ready.

The best way to deal with a broken marriage is to preempt it because once a marriage is broken it is very difficult to restore. Since prevention is better than a cure, it's important that we recognize how to identify if we’re ready for marriage in the first place.

The following are 12 signs that a person is not ready for marriage. I ask that you read and share. Of course, if you feel I missed any vital signs, please include them in the comments below.

You're More Concerned With the Wedding than the Marriage

Often, more time is spent preparing and agonizing over the wedding details than actually considering the marriage. If you know more about the flowers at your upcoming wedding than you do about your partner’s debt situation, marriage ain’t for you.

The Trust Isn't There Yet
Trust is critical. However, I find that some people don’t believe it’s possible to “fully” trust anyone, let alone a future spouse. If this is your challenge, you’re setting yourself up for a tumultuous relationship. Trust is belief in one’s integrity. No relationship can survive without trust.

You Can't See Yourself Parenting Their Child
When you enter a relationship with a single parent, you enter a relationship with their children, as well. I've heard countless stories of people saying “I love the person but just don’t love his/her kids.” This unfortunately is an unworkable situation. Children are not accessories to be included or not, they are a permanent part of the equation.

You Haven't Been Dating for Long
This is one category where statistics speak volumes. Most studies show a clear distinction in the divorce rate based on the number of years a couple dates. If you date and get married in less than two years, divorce rates are measurably higher than dating and marrying with more time under our belt. An interesting twist to these studies is dating too long before getting married has negative consequences, as well (anything over five years has high divorce rates).

Your Vitals Aren't Strong
If you’re headed to the altar without your relationship vitals in place, I call this settling. Relationship vitals are your values, personality type, and non-negotiables. These are all categories you should know and never amend for anyone. Your vitals are so important because the key pillars to a successful relationship are communication and conflict resolution. Met relationship vitals give you the optimal chance to exchange ideas and work through problems, when they arise.

You're Not Ready for Compromise
The pastor that counseled my wife and me before we got married told us something we’ll never forget – “You can’t have a successful relationship (romantic or platonic) unless you have a willingness to compromise.” When times get tough, there is one of two ways we react. Either we become selfish and focus on self or we become selfless and focus on our loved ones. If you (or they) are the former, marriage is not the right move.

You're Being Pressured
Are you getting married because of threats or ultimatums? If this is the case, you shouldn't be getting married. Marriage should be entered by the free will of two people who love and respect one another. If you’re being pressured to get married, it’s time to reevaluate the basis of the relationship.

You Don't Speak Their Love Language
I've often said Dr. Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages” is the bible of relationships. In it, he paints a very compelling argument that an inability to speak or receive the love language of your partner is a recipe for disaster. Not giving love in a language they understand or receiving love in your language means you and your partner may never truly feel love.

You're Not Sexually Attracted to Each Other
Plain and simple, he can be the most wonderful guy in the world, have the potential to set the record for best husband and father on the planet, but if you’re not sexually attracted to him, your relationship will go south quickly.

You're Battling Addiction or Mental Health Issues
Pathology is something that does not get enough attention when we talk about relationships. Nearly 20 million people in the U.S. suffer from negative pathology. This means one in 25 people will have the disorders associated with ‘no conscience’ which include antisocial personality disorder, sociopath, and psychopath. Bottom line is that a healthy mind is a prerequisite to a healthy relationship.

You're Investing More than You Can Afford to Lose
The joining together of two people is also the joining together of two families and circles of friends. Social tension is often cited as a top reason for divorce. You must ask yourself “at what cost am I in this relationship?” If you have to give up your friends, or family, the cost is too high. Reason being, if it all falls apart, you’ll be both emotionally and socially bankrupt. Like Dr. Phil said, “it is better to be healthy alone, than sick with someone else.”

Your Mind Still Wanders
If you’re apprehensive about marriage because you feel that someone better (looks or general attributes) could be around the corner, marriage ain't for you. When you get married, you should feel confident that the person you’re meeting at the altar is the best for you and life without them is imaginable.

Read more: http://www.essence.com/2011/11/08/modern-day-matchmaker-12-signs-youre-not-ready-for-marriage/#ixzz1oM1NctNm

Modern Day Matchmaker: Are You Dating a Boy or a Man?

I thought that this was a really good read, and made some really valid points....

Modern Day Matchmaker: Are You Dating a Boy or a Man?
By Paul Carrick Brunson

Sometimes, ideas for posts come to me in conversation, sometimes based on what I read, and others I'm inspired by the real situations my clients are in. But believe it or not, my all time favorite source for ideas is Twitter. I find the social media platform to be the best pulse to find out what’s of interest in our lives.  

Ive seen a lot of chatter on Twitter about people's opinion on the difference between a boy and a man. I wasn’t compelled to respond until I saw several tweets articulating age as an important factor. While I believe age is part of the equation, let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man.

Here are the top seven differences between boys and men. Ladies, listen up.

Does He Have Goals?
“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

How Responsible Is He?
Men make and keep commitment, boys don’t.

What Does He Call You?
Boys want a “wifey”. Men want a wife.

Can He Communicate?
A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours, and listen.

Does He Accomplish or Destroy?
Boys consume. Men produce.

Can You Trust Him?
You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy.

Does He Know Who He Is?
Boys dress, talk, and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one.

Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?
Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

What Are His Beliefs?
Boys believe nothing is greater than themselves. Men believe in a higher power.

Is He Serious About His Future?
Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family.

Does He Pick Up the Phone?
Boys send text messages. Men call.

What Is His Purpose?
Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

Does He Have Baggage?
Boys have liabilities. Men possess assets.

How Does He Handle the First Date?
Boys split the check. Men pay.

How He Handles Adversity?
Boys become selfish. Men are selfless.



Read more:
http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/#ixzz1oLwwFMmN

Season of Rain

This year has taught me a lot of things, and I was both humbled and grateful.   I accept everything that happened to me in 2011, and have no regrets about it.  There is a reason that I went through the burning sands in 2011.  The struggle is going to make me stronger.  The changes will be coming in 2012.  A fresh start awaits me.  A new day has begun.   I have learned more about me this year than any other year in my years on this side of the dirt.  This year, I have learned what made me tick, and learned to stop holding my tongue (like I ever stopped in the first place).

This year, 2011, was my season of rain.  In 2012 my earth will harden under my feet and I will be standing on solid ground.  If you loved me, I loved you.  If I was your friend or family, then I will continue to be the same person.   If you talked about me, good or bad, I see it as free publicity.  If you hated me, you probably didn't understand me or didn't take the time out to get to know me.

Here and now...

Well I started, well I should say restarted this blog because of the craziness on the other blog called The Retired Homewrecker.  The name Homewrecker was 'given' to me by a few little boys who thought they could play the player, but when the heat was turned up, couldn't play the game and got burned in the end.

The blog came about when I got tired of the games men and women play on each other. This blog is the basis for people for use to get info on how to play the game better, and to share your stories.

I will move my original blog The Retired Homewrecker to its new home here.  As a warning, all people that read and comment on this blog better come correct and ready to explain your 2 cents to the world (and to me) because you will get raked across the coals.  I do not hold my tongue and will not start doing it either.

In the words of my main man Tank...
"I’m about to spill the truth on these niggas and I know I’m a lose a fan...

So don’t shout me out now nigga
Don’t quote my songs
Don’t gas me up now killer
Don’t write them wrongs
Don’t say you knew me then playa
And then try to serve me now waiter
Cause I could use you better as a hater"



Signed,
The Original Quiet Storm

Dammit bitches!

Yes! I said dammit bitches! This poem has been on my blog for YEARS!!! I am not the owner of the poem! However, I have to say my 2 fucking cents on all these anonymously written responses to this poem. 

ALL YOU BITCHES NEED TO OWN UP TO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING ON THIS BLOG!!!

Every woman on this planet has at one time or another, knowingly or unknowingly, has BEEN THE OTHER DAMN WOMAN! HELL, I will admit to it that I have been the one that was cheated on and the other woman.  I know all about what the poem dictates. I need for all of you to keep it one hundred not just with me but also to yourself.  PUT YOUR FUCKING NAME WHERE YOUR ASS TYPED! 

Do you feel better about yourself when you come on my blog and speak your mind without remorse?  I bet that all of you assholes have Facebook pages and will post all of your intimate details there, but you cant own up to a years old blog?!?!? Come on, son!

Poem - Apologize

Apologize

I came to the realization

That an apology will never come

Your pride will not allow you to be wrong

I had your back

I picked you up when you fell

Dusted you off and pushed you in the right direction of greatness

Tied your bootstraps when you stumbled

Brought you to the top of your game

And what did I get??

Ridicule

Disgust

My will broken, faith diminished

Dreams deferred

Love denied and held for ransom

Mentally beaten, emotionally devastated

I’ve done so much for you

During the years together and apart

It took an act of the Almighty and several issues

To realize that it was all a lie

To admit that it was all wrong

And walk away from you

I had to realize

That you were a disease

That I needed to be cured from

To get rid of you would be my salvation

For all of the things wrong with our unholy union

I know you will never apologize to me

After all, you are always right

It’s not in you to admit

Too late

The bridges have been burned

Olive branches used as kindling

Just walk away and never look back

Real men apologize, but we know that you aren’t one of them.

To all the idiots....

Yeah this is my testament to the stupid idiot that had nothing better to do than to go on a blog in which I haven't touched in over a year to say simple minded comments on a poem that I didn't even write!

I would have gone on a expletive-filled rant, but that will only push me to your level. However, I will respond to your name-calling first amendment expression.

That poem must have REALLY struck a nerve with you, didn't it?? From the filth that came forth from your little fingers, you must have had your man taken away from you in this fashion. Let me be the one to apologize. I will apologize to you for not taking the time out to learn all the needs, wants, and desires that your man had and you decided that you didn't want to know about it. I apologize to you for not satisfying your man the right way - mentally, physically, and emotionally. I apologize to you that the woman that wrote that poem wasn't me, but I understand where that woman is coming from, and it should be a lesson to you.

I apologize that my nickname bothers you so much. I apologize that the Homewrecker is not from the ghetto, as you so lovingly put it, but by way of Capital Hill, one of the wealthiest sections of Washington, DC. I apologize that I carry myself like the diva that I am, and I command respect, and give respect in return. I apologize that I am college-educated and not a "classless twat". I can only assume that he must have called you that at some point in your miserable life. I apologize that I am not a "grubby little bitch", but I am the Head Bitch in Charge. Oh, that's right - you think I envy you because you are an "accomplished woman"? No, I don't envy you, but I do feel sorry for you. Most accomplished women lead very empty lives because they lost themselves in that bourgeois world.

As the passage goes (Matthew 16:26):
"For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?"

15 Simple Ways to Keep Your Partner Happy

15 Simple Ways to Keep Your Partner Happy
By David Wygant Updated: May 27, 2008


So you're in a relationship and your partner starts nagging. She tells you that you just don't understand her, and that she really wishes that you would just do more "little things."
It's not the big things that make her happy; it's paying attention to the little details and showing you care that is really meaningful. She doesn't necessarily need lavish gifts -- she needs to know you're thinking about her.
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these "little things" she really wants:
1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night. Don't ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we had last night was great."
5. Send an eCard in the middle of the day... something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.
6. If she's going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don't monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don't just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
11. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
12. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don't just say you'll give her a massage...do it!
13. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, "We're going out tonight honey." You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It's taking the initiative that's important.
14. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date like when you first started dating.
15. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don't wait for her to call you.
It can be simple to keep her satisfied. It's not necessarily about what you give her financially or what gifts you give her. That's a cop out. It's the little things. The guy who makes the biggest mistake is the one who ignores their significant other then all of a sudden give them an expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn't make up for it at all.

Sure Success Mature Seduction Tips

Sure Success Mature Seduction Tips
Mature seduction are sometimes seen by men as something harder than ordinary seduction. The reason for them to have this perception is that seducing an older woman or having any close relationship with them is a society taboo. However, this is not really a problem in this modern world unless you are still having the stone age mindset. Mature seduction is just like any other ordinary seduction but on the seduction skills that you can apply, small modifications will need to be made to suit the personalities of older women.

Sure Success Mature Seduction Tips #1 Be Independent
Older women wants security when it comes to establishing a close relationship with a man. Even though you might not be looking for a close relationship in seduction but it is very important that you win her trust by showing her that her future is secured with you by being independent. Stop whining about the office to her. Instead, tell her about you grand 10 years plan to be successful and what will you to in order to reach the height.
Sure Success Mature Seduction Tips #2 Watch What You Wear
Stop being childish and wear clothes with rainbow colors. You will need to prefer the suits and shirts more rather than teenage years T-shirt. Also, make sure that your outfit is nicely iron as it will show how neat are you. Older women do not like the person that they linger around with to be special. They will just want you to be plain and nice. Thus, just a simple shirt and pants combination will be able to win her hard for proceedings towards mature seduction.
Sure Success Mature Seduction Tips #3 Confidence is Gold
When it comes to seducing older women, confidence always work out great. Be proud of yourself and tell her things that you have accomplished over the years. Make her see you as a person that loves competition and will be ready for anything, especially protecting her. Again, the point of doing so is to provide her with the sense of security. She is in her stage of life which is sometimes very tired to have a partner that seems to be adding more burden on her.